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How do I move past lies, deceit and omissions?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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Do you have any advice or suggestions on how I can find a balance of my extremes?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How do I talk to my kids?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can I read stories of other betrayals and not take on the pain or unnecessary anxiety from them?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can I get these recurring thoughts and images out of my head?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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Can journaling help with a lifetime of memories?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How do we heal once we have shared with family members and it puts a strain on those relationships?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Was there a day when you just knew it was time to get a divorce?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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What are some practices that can be done to increase the strength of relationships?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Is there a book on boundaries that is helpful?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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When going through disclosure, which therapists host the disclosure, the addicts or partners?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Is it important to find a therapist that really gets you?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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What if I already wrote an impact letter and don’t want to go back and reread my husband’s restitution letter?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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I have to no one to share my shame with. How can I not be embarrassed by that shame?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Are there specific books, resources, or guiding questions that you use in your shame group?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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What is the difference between shame and self-esteem?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Why do I feel shame within my family?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Am I in denial?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Can I learn to accept my body image?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Why do I feel more humiliated than I do shame from my husband’s actions?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I overcome feeling like I am disposable?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I decrease the amount of checking and all of the self-defeating behaviors and yet not limit it entirely?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Is it normal to have intrusive thoughts of my husband sexually acting out?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I pull myself together to make self-care a priority?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Do you recommend spouses finding some sort of accountability partner for our boundaries?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Each time I get my feet back under me, another relapse happens. Should I just stop asking or looking for clues until he’s out of recovery?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Is my anger normal?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Is the end goal just management?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Why is it that I feel more safe when I keep my feelings inside and I feel worse when I identify and express them to someone?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I overcome feeling overwhelmed?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I not be easily duped and not feel stupid?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Can these ingrained negative beliefs keep you stuck unknowingly where one would need something like EMDR to release them?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I change my beliefs that I have about addicts?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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My partner betrayed me with a friend. Will I ever be able to trust again?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How do I hold on to a belief that I matter?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I recover from trauma with my partner in the past and not feel dismissive?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I get me? Love me? With the same or better energy that I spent investing in him. And how can I make sure I won’t lose myself again?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How can I overcome the feeling like I’m two different people?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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What if the loves are losses?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Under what circumstances would you advise sharing the list of your losses with your spouse?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How do I work on feeling important?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Am I ever going to be healthy enough to find real love?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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How do I overcome the feeling of fakeness in my past and present life?

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Amy Andrus, LMFT, CSAT-C

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Boyfriend is a Mother Enmeshed Man and Mother-in-Law is trying to sabotage our relationship and I feel bullied.

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Krista Haws

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What is the best way for me to communicate with my Mother-in-Law so she treats me with respect and I don’t say anything wrong at the same time?

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Krista Haws

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My Husband lied at Professional Disclosure, and continues to lie to his therapists at important steps in his recovery process.

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Krista Haws

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I have been struggling with extreme anger with my husband because of all the lies he is telling me.

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Krista Haws

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How do I get rid of my terrible nightmares resulting from betrayal trauma?

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Krista Haws

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I’m in California and we are still on lockdown and so are told not to hug people, which makes this exercise hard. I’m wondering what impact the pandemic will have on our collective ability to connect and support each other.

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can I heal in the middle of a marriage where connection is missing?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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I have been chemical hugging my son and daughter and am going to do the writing challenge with my husband, but that’s the scariest of them all.

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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Why do women feel shame over admitting to friends and community members that they have been betrayed?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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When I look into my husband’s eyes, all I see is deception and darkness.

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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Is there a way to face the truth without it taking all the work on my recovery away?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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Can you give a few examples of preparing for the future trauma and what it might look like in a healthy way?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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If my husband insults me in front of our therapist do I stand up for myself or let him speak his perspective?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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What kinds of ongoing questions and check-ins would you recommend us doing so that one of us doesn’t slip into old patterns? And if we do slip, how can we protect our marriage in our own self so that we don’t both slip?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How do I face the storm when I don’t know when he is being honest and when he is not?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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What can I do to try to better connect with my emotions?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How will I be able to face a future storm if I can’t recognize it?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can I release the need to know what my husband is doing and feeling?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How does trauma get trapped in the physical body?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can I stick to yoga when it feels useless and like I’m not releasing anything from my body?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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Can I ever forgive a betrayal that caused so much suffering?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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My husband is a narcissist and I don’t know how our marriage is going to turn out.

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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What should I do after I turn and face the situation with pure emotion since my spouse doesn’t respond effectively?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How do I muster the will to be a Buffalo in tough situations?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can I encourage my husband to find meaningful help without controlling him?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can I rebuild my marriage when it feels like I can’t trust my husband?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can my husband recall or explain his physically acting out?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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How can I manage my anger towards my husband?

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Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT, CSAT-S, Core Faculty

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