What if I already wrote an impact letter and don’t want to go back and reread my husband’s restitution letter?




I freaking did an impact letter, I don’t want to go back and reread my husband’s restitution letter. I want to say to you, listen to yourself. If you don’t want to go back and reread your husband’s restitution letter, don’t. No one is saying you have to. If you don’t want to go write another impact letter, don’t. You listen to exactly where you are at right now. And I can tell you, you sound like right now, you’re saying I don’t have the energy to deal with that. You sound weary. You don’t need to be just powering through and pushing through. Listen to yourself. What is it that you really need? Sounds like maybe you need rest and you already know that’s there, you’ve already gone through it, and so what is it that you need? Listen to that, honor that. No matter what Dr. Skinner or me or anyone is going to tell you, there isn’t a right and a wrong way to go through this, it’s going through this kindly with yourself without judgment. Listen to yourself, trust what you need, if there is a wall and it feels exhausting, go rest. You will know the next step.

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