Quite honestly, my husband is a narcissist. And while he may have sympathy, he lacks empathy. I can be the buffalo, turn and face the issue, and try to communicate, but it won’t really sink in. Point of fact, he’s still cheating, so I’m working on myself and don’t really know how the marriage is going to turn out. I think I understand what you’re teaching here, but it is basically for our own mental healing and strength.
It is. Sometimes buffaloing up might mean that you feel that you have to have a boundary and that the relationship won’t work for you. It’s doing the hard thing, it’s facing that storm, the realities, what it isn’t, what your dreams were, and what’s not happening. So as you say, you might’ve answered your own question.
My suggestion, if he truly is a narcissist, is you’re going to have to have strong boundaries and those boundaries might push him away further because the stronger you get, the more he won’t like it. Anyway, I wish you the best and I appreciate you taking time to be here on the You Bloom. And whether your relationship works out or not, I strongly do agree with you. We’ve got to make sure that we have our boundaries in place and we know who we are working on self.