How can I overcome feeling like I’m a buffalo in a cow pen?




Any thoughts, tips, or advice in dealing with situations where you feel like a Buffalo in a cow pen. Family or friends, not facing problems, pushing responsibility off onto you, misplaced blame. I’m guessing this would fall under boundary work, just so hard when you feel like it’s up to you to keep the peace and hold everyone together. When I hold boundaries, I get accused of being selfish, not caring about others.

I have limitations might be my response. I’m doing the best I can with my circumstances, but I can’t go any faster. And there’s things that I just am going to choose not to do right now. I hope you can understand that. Boundaries. I’m not trying to be selfish. I only have so much energy and there’s a lot going on right now, especially because of the betrayal and because of these things. So you’re going to have to be patient with me, I’m doing the best I can, but I could use some help. And the point then is yes, it’s going to be boundaries, but sometimes you have to get energy, so to speak, water in your bucket so your buckets not empty. And that would be the biggest thing I would say is it’s hard to give when you don’t have any water in your bucket.

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