The primary difference between shame and self-esteem is self-esteem is a thinking exercise. We think self-esteem, we think through, I graduated from BYU, I studied this, we think through our self-esteem we can, it’s a thinking exercise. Shame occurs in the limbic part of our brain, which you know, that is when we are offline, we are not thinking. That is an emotional response when we are just reduced to that place of smallness. So we think self-esteem, we feel shame. So that’s the main difference there.
Now the beliefs, that is where our experiences shape our beliefs. But shame is the emotional, the deeply painful feeling that you have, where self-esteem is, we think self-esteem.