How can I get rid of my ongoing cycle of feeling numb and crazy?
Watch Listen Read I felt the walking dead some days, and then a total emotional mess on other days, how do I stop feeling numb? I would encourage journaling and giving a voice to the numb. And if you’re feeling crazy, that means your mind is racing, which means that you want to do some […]
I have to no one to share my shame with. How can I not be embarrassed by that shame?
Watch Listen Read No one to shame share, I’m too embarrassed. Okay, who even can I get to be like my shame partner that I can talk about shame. The first place is recognizing when it is that you’re feeling it. You’re talking about an experience that you had in junior high that was really […]
Can I learn to accept my body image?
Watch Listen Read You bring up one of the issues that I would say almost all, we’re not able to really say all because there are a rare few exceptions of women who do not struggle with body image, but almost all women struggle with body image and with beauty body image, aging period. But […]
How can I overcome feeling like I am disposable?
Watch Listen Read I actually got teary when I read your question, because I said those very same words. I said to my mom, I feel like just the garbage that got taken out, just disposable. I feel disposable and unlovable and it’s so heartbreaking. When you’re saying, “I didn’t do these assignments. I just […]
How can I pull myself together to make self-care a priority?
Watch Listen Read Oh that is such a hard question, because we know what others tell us that we need to be doing in order to be able to gain traction and momentum in our recovery. We also feel good after the fact after we do it. So why don’t we do it? There are […]
Is the end goal just management?
Watch Listen Read Is there an end to all of this? The question states, am I going to have to continually work to avoid doing these things, looking back over old stuff. Is the end goal just management? There’s so much pain in the comments on this thread about looking back on the memories that […]
How can I not be easily duped and not feel stupid?
Watch Listen Read The question is, I am so easy to dupe. I think one of my negative beliefs was that I was dumb for not trusting the signs. So what I want to tell you, that too was one of my go-to beliefs of, I am so stupid. And I would realize once I […]
Can these ingrained negative beliefs keep you stuck unknowingly where one would need something like EMDR to release them?
Watch Listen Read The answer to that is absolutely yes. When you said I’ve had negative beliefs, like I’m not enough for over 60 years, those are deeply ingrained beliefs that are not true. And EMDR will allow you to recognize some of the experiences that have shaped those beliefs. And, for me, my marriage […]
My partner betrayed me with a friend. Will I ever be able to trust again?
Watch Listen Read Okay. Oh, the only thing that makes betrayal, trauma suck even worse is when there’s a double betrayal. That double whammy, when your partner betrays you with a friend. Oh, that’s the case for this next question. That, that of course you are feeling like, I don’t know with whom I can […]
How do I hold on to a belief that I matter?
Watch Listen Read I want to tell you that you matter. Just me I don’t even, I don’t know you. But reading your question and hearing your strength, that you still have a voice that you’re doing this work, despite everything you have been through inspires me. Because of your choice, you are choosing to […]