How can I recover from trauma with my partner in the past and not feel dismissive?
Watch Listen Read I understand how it feels dismissive to reality check. When you’re saying that really happened, are you asking us to Pollyanna and just pretend it didn’t? No, that’s not at all what I’m asking you to do. And I remember this concept being taught by one of my professors about beliefs. And […]
How can I get me? Love me? With the same or better energy that I spent investing in him. And how can I make sure I won’t lose myself again?
Watch Listen Read I want you to think about, at least for me, the amount of energy that you put into reading, thinking, worrying about your husband with his betrayal. And think about if you even put in half that amount of energy with connecting to yourself, the relationship that you would have with yourself. […]
How can I overcome the feeling like I’m two different people?
Watch Listen Read The question is like feeling like I’m fluctuating between two people, both of whom are me. It’s like on the one sense, I know this is true, but then that feels completely not true. I 100% remember like the way you described that with feeling like you’re two people that can’t communicate […]
How do I work on feeling important?
Watch Listen Read So this next question says I can work through all of the thoughts of feeling whole, feeling loved, feeling peace. How do I work on feeling important? What I want to tell you about that is, as you focus on your relationship with yourself and you make yourself important, then you’re able […]
Am I ever going to be healthy enough to find real love?
Watch Listen Read Okay, there’s a segment in this question. You said I am falling in love with me again. I love that so much because so many people never fall in love with themselves. And so the fact that you can say, I am falling in love with me again, your question am I […]
How do I overcome the feeling of fakeness in my past and present life?
Watch Listen Read The feeling of feeling fake. I promise you everyone here knows that feeling of when your heart is hurting, and you’re trying to put on that brave face in the world out there, and it feels so fake. And even that is like doubly painful, trying to put on the happy face. […]
What is the best way for me to communicate with my Mother-in-Law so she treats me with respect and I don’t say anything wrong at the same time?
Watch Listen Read So the question, what is the best way for me to communicate with her so she treats me with respect and I don’t say anything wrong at the same time? Oh gosh, like that question breaks my heart because there’s no way to do that. There’s no way to make sure that […]
What can I do to try to better connect with my emotions?
Watch Listen Read Feeling numb and struggling to connect with emotions and feelings. I spent a lot of time where I feel numb. I can go about my day and do my job and look after my child, but I’m in autopilot. On some days I feel like I’m calm, but the more I think […]
When Was the Last Time You Let Yourself Just Play?
Play, as unstructured pleasurable activity, is so often ignored by women. We so often find ourselves in unending roles of caregiving, that we ignore what really makes us happy. What makes our essential selves, the selves that existed long before we were attached to a significant other or to offspring, truly happy. We have forgotten how to play.