My partner betrayed me with a friend. Will I ever be able to trust again?
Watch Listen Read Okay. Oh, the only thing that makes betrayal, trauma suck even worse is when there’s a double betrayal. That double whammy, when your partner betrays you with a friend. Oh, that’s the case for this next question. That, that of course you are feeling like, I don’t know with whom I can […]
How do I hold on to a belief that I matter?
Watch Listen Read I want to tell you that you matter. Just me I don’t even, I don’t know you. But reading your question and hearing your strength, that you still have a voice that you’re doing this work, despite everything you have been through inspires me. Because of your choice, you are choosing to […]
How can I recover from trauma with my partner in the past and not feel dismissive?
Watch Listen Read I understand how it feels dismissive to reality check. When you’re saying that really happened, are you asking us to Pollyanna and just pretend it didn’t? No, that’s not at all what I’m asking you to do. And I remember this concept being taught by one of my professors about beliefs. And […]
How can I get me? Love me? With the same or better energy that I spent investing in him. And how can I make sure I won’t lose myself again?
Watch Listen Read I want you to think about, at least for me, the amount of energy that you put into reading, thinking, worrying about your husband with his betrayal. And think about if you even put in half that amount of energy with connecting to yourself, the relationship that you would have with yourself. […]
How can I overcome the feeling like I’m two different people?
Watch Listen Read The question is like feeling like I’m fluctuating between two people, both of whom are me. It’s like on the one sense, I know this is true, but then that feels completely not true. I 100% remember like the way you described that with feeling like you’re two people that can’t communicate […]
What if the loves are losses?
Watch Listen Read The question is what if the loves are losses? First, I just want to speak to your pain. And when you said this is all hidden, and I don’t have friends or want friends anymore, I distance myself from my mom, everything is just too painful, you sound very much alone. And, […]
Under what circumstances would you advise sharing the list of your losses with your spouse?
Watch Listen Read My response to that is in all circumstances, I would want them to know the impact that this experience had on the individual who has struggled with the betrayal. Whether you stay married or you get divorced. I would suggest that under all circumstances, you share the list of losses so that […]
How do I work on feeling important?
Watch Listen Read So this next question says I can work through all of the thoughts of feeling whole, feeling loved, feeling peace. How do I work on feeling important? What I want to tell you about that is, as you focus on your relationship with yourself and you make yourself important, then you’re able […]
Am I ever going to be healthy enough to find real love?
Watch Listen Read Okay, there’s a segment in this question. You said I am falling in love with me again. I love that so much because so many people never fall in love with themselves. And so the fact that you can say, I am falling in love with me again, your question am I […]
How do I overcome the feeling of fakeness in my past and present life?
Watch Listen Read The feeling of feeling fake. I promise you everyone here knows that feeling of when your heart is hurting, and you’re trying to put on that brave face in the world out there, and it feels so fake. And even that is like doubly painful, trying to put on the happy face. […]