How can I get these recurring thoughts and images out of my head?

Watch Listen Read I have recurring thoughts and images multiple times a day, and I get so angry. I conjure up so many scenarios in my head that I literally have to stop and say out loud, think what you are thinking about, just stop. I’ve never been one that doesn’t take care of my […]

Can journaling help with a lifetime of memories?

Watch Listen Read I’m having a hard time determining one event to journal about. My husband disclosed betrayal that occurred throughout our 22 year marriage. I do not have one specific memory, I’m processing an entire marriage. What we’re looking for here is you to give a language to some of these experiences. What we […]

Was there a day when you just knew it was time to get a divorce?

Watch Listen Read If there is something I can promise you, I know it is so scary because I’ve been there. And when people would say, “Amy, you’ll know”. Dr. Skinner would say that to me, and I was like, I don’t believe that that is true. I don’t believe that is true. And he […]

Is there a book on boundaries that is helpful?

Watch Listen Read I want to tell you, there is a book that not many of you know of. It’s from a woman who has actually gone through this and her name is Becky Jones. Her book is Sexual betrayal SUCKS, but you got this. She has a really great section about navigating boundaries and […]

Is it important to find a therapist that really gets you?

Watch Listen Read It’s more me talking again to you about the importance of finding a therapist that really gets you. And I am grateful that you put a pause on a therapist that didn’t, that you found bloom, that you’re headed into doing some EMDR work, and I really want you to continue to […]

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What if I already wrote an impact letter and don’t want to go back and reread my husband’s restitution letter?




I freaking did an impact letter, I don’t want to go back and reread my husband’s restitution letter. I want to say to you, listen to yourself. If you don’t want to go back and reread your husband’s restitution letter, don’t. No one is saying you have to. If you don’t want to go write another impact letter, don’t. You listen to exactly where you are at right now. And I can tell you, you sound like right now, you’re saying I don’t have the energy to deal with that. You sound weary. You don’t need to be just powering through and pushing through. Listen to yourself. What is it that you really need? Sounds like maybe you need rest and you already know that’s there, you’ve already gone through it, and so what is it that you need? Listen to that, honor that. No matter what Dr. Skinner or me or anyone is going to tell you, there isn’t a right and a wrong way to go through this, it’s going through this kindly with yourself without judgment. Listen to yourself, trust what you need, if there is a wall and it feels exhausting, go rest. You will know the next step.