How can I get these recurring thoughts and images out of my head?

Watch Listen Read I have recurring thoughts and images multiple times a day, and I get so angry. I conjure up so many scenarios in my head that I literally have to stop and say out loud, think what you are thinking about, just stop. I’ve never been one that doesn’t take care of my […]

Can journaling help with a lifetime of memories?

Watch Listen Read I’m having a hard time determining one event to journal about. My husband disclosed betrayal that occurred throughout our 22 year marriage. I do not have one specific memory, I’m processing an entire marriage. What we’re looking for here is you to give a language to some of these experiences. What we […]

Is there a book on boundaries that is helpful?

Watch Listen Read I want to tell you, there is a book that not many of you know of. It’s from a woman who has actually gone through this and her name is Becky Jones. Her book is Sexual betrayal SUCKS, but you got this. She has a really great section about navigating boundaries and […]

Is it important to find a therapist that really gets you?

Watch Listen Read It’s more me talking again to you about the importance of finding a therapist that really gets you. And I am grateful that you put a pause on a therapist that didn’t, that you found bloom, that you’re headed into doing some EMDR work, and I really want you to continue to […]

How can I overcome feeling like I am disposable?

Watch Listen Read I actually got teary when I read your question, because I said those very same words. I said to my mom, I feel like just the garbage that got taken out, just disposable. I feel disposable and unlovable and it’s so heartbreaking. When you’re saying, “I didn’t do these assignments. I just […]

Is it normal to have intrusive thoughts of my husband sexually acting out?

Watch Listen Read What I want to say to you is, you are three months into recovery and you are already recognizing, you’re saying I have vivid images that are triggered, and you’re saying you’re stopping, checking yourself, realizing that they’re imagined, and is it normal? I’m like, holy cow, that’s not normal. You are […]

How can I pull myself together to make self-care a priority?

Watch Listen Read Oh that is such a hard question, because we know what others tell us that we need to be doing in order to be able to gain traction and momentum in our recovery. We also feel good after the fact after we do it. So why don’t we do it? There are […]