Is Pornography Addiction Real?
In the last few years, the discussion around pornography and its effect on individuals and relationships has intensified. Groups such as Fight the New Drug have made it their sole mission to prove “porn kills love.” There are a growing number of therapists specializing in pornography addiction, the psychological consequences the addicted bears, and the […]
What should I do if my partner invalidates my experience?
My partner and I have separated, how can move past this pain and still hold my relationships?
Watch Listen Read When do I get to be supported? And when will he acknowledge my betrayal trauma? If you’re going to work on your relationship that will be essential. Now, again, that’s if we’re going to be working on the relationship he will need to do that. I would suggest an eye detect that […]
How do we heal once we have shared with family members and it puts a strain on those relationships?
Watch Listen Read This one is really hard because even though you understand and your husband understands that they care so much, they have their own feelings, which then creates more pain and stress in you. I remember feeling like breaking down to my sister one day just saying, your feelings of love and protection […]
Was there a day when you just knew it was time to get a divorce?
Watch Listen Read If there is something I can promise you, I know it is so scary because I’ve been there. And when people would say, “Amy, you’ll know”. Dr. Skinner would say that to me, and I was like, I don’t believe that that is true. I don’t believe that is true. And he […]
What are some practices that can be done to increase the strength of relationships?
Watch Listen Read I just want to share this, this little section is beautiful about for the past several months, your family has been keeping the commitment to hug one another and share how much we love one another. And what a beautiful experience that has been on a daily to share that love. What […]
Why do I feel shame within my family?
Watch Listen Read Our family of origin, unfortunately, can be a large source of shame in our lives. And it sounds like in your case, what is deeply painful is the same patterns keep reoccurring, the pattern between your mom and your brother. And this is why it’s so crucial to understand the emotion of […]
Why do I feel more humiliated than I do shame from my husband’s actions?
Watch Listen Read I think I feel more humiliated than I am shame that I’m feeling shame from my husband’s actions. And I think it’s important to distinguish the difference of humiliation versus shame. Humiliation is a different emotion you feel like outrage, like I don’t deserve this. I don’t deserve this. Where shame you […]
Is it normal to have intrusive thoughts of my husband sexually acting out?
Watch Listen Read What I want to say to you is, you are three months into recovery and you are already recognizing, you’re saying I have vivid images that are triggered, and you’re saying you’re stopping, checking yourself, realizing that they’re imagined, and is it normal? I’m like, holy cow, that’s not normal. You are […]
Do you recommend spouses finding some sort of accountability partner for our boundaries?
Watch Listen Read I love that because the answer is yes. Addiction is about boundary failure and as partners, we have a difficult time holding boundaries. So this is where if you are in a betrayal trauma group, which you guys really in effect are with each other, put your dailies out there and hold […]