How do we heal once we have shared with family members and it puts a strain on those relationships?
Watch Listen Read This one is really hard because even though you understand and your husband understands that they care so much, they have their own feelings, which then creates more pain and stress in you. I remember feeling like breaking down to my sister one day just saying, your feelings of love and protection […]
Was there a day when you just knew it was time to get a divorce?
Watch Listen Read If there is something I can promise you, I know it is so scary because I’ve been there. And when people would say, “Amy, you’ll know”. Dr. Skinner would say that to me, and I was like, I don’t believe that that is true. I don’t believe that is true. And he […]
What are some practices that can be done to increase the strength of relationships?
Watch Listen Read I just want to share this, this little section is beautiful about for the past several months, your family has been keeping the commitment to hug one another and share how much we love one another. And what a beautiful experience that has been on a daily to share that love. What […]
Is there a book on boundaries that is helpful?
Watch Listen Read I want to tell you, there is a book that not many of you know of. It’s from a woman who has actually gone through this and her name is Becky Jones. Her book is Sexual betrayal SUCKS, but you got this. She has a really great section about navigating boundaries and […]
When going through disclosure, which therapists host the disclosure, the addicts or partners?
Watch Listen Read You have disclosure coming up and so I’m just taking a deep breath for you and tell you that disclosure’s a scary word, but what you have gone through, you’ve already gone through the worst of it, you’ve had the injury and you’re ripping off the bandage. So when we went through […]
Is it important to find a therapist that really gets you?
Watch Listen Read It’s more me talking again to you about the importance of finding a therapist that really gets you. And I am grateful that you put a pause on a therapist that didn’t, that you found bloom, that you’re headed into doing some EMDR work, and I really want you to continue to […]
What if I already wrote an impact letter and don’t want to go back and reread my husband’s restitution letter?
Watch Listen Read I freaking did an impact letter, I don’t want to go back and reread my husband’s restitution letter. I want to say to you, listen to yourself. If you don’t want to go back and reread your husband’s restitution letter, don’t. No one is saying you have to. If you don’t want […]
I have to no one to share my shame with. How can I not be embarrassed by that shame?
Watch Listen Read No one to shame share, I’m too embarrassed. Okay, who even can I get to be like my shame partner that I can talk about shame. The first place is recognizing when it is that you’re feeling it. You’re talking about an experience that you had in junior high that was really […]
Are there specific books, resources, or guiding questions that you use in your shame group?
Watch Listen Read So first I would like to say, anybody who would ever like an online shame group, I would be first in line to want to run that group, so plug for group. In response to the questions, what resources do we use for that group? It is a resource for therapist’s so […]
What is the difference between shame and self-esteem?
Watch Listen Read The primary difference between shame and self-esteem is self-esteem is a thinking exercise. We think self-esteem, we think through, I graduated from BYU, I studied this, we think through our self-esteem we can, it’s a thinking exercise. Shame occurs in the limbic part of our brain, which you know, that is when […]