Watch Listen Read That’s a very important question. This is a question, especially for parents of younger kids, but I guess in general, for all kids, I have three young boys, nine, seven, and three, and I think it will be important for my husband and I to address some of his struggles with our […]
Watch Listen Read My response to that is in all circumstances, I would want them to know the impact that this experience had on the individual who has struggled with the betrayal. Whether you stay married or you get divorced. I would suggest that under all circumstances, you share the list of losses so that […]
What is the best way for me to communicate with my Mother-in-Law so she treats me with respect and I don’t say anything wrong at the same time?
Watch Listen Read So the question, what is the best way for me to communicate with her so she treats me with respect and I don’t say anything wrong at the same time? Oh gosh, like that question breaks my heart because there’s no way to do that. There’s no way to make sure that […]
If my husband insults me in front of our therapist do I stand up for myself or let him speak his perspective?
Watch Listen Read Long story short, his brain became addicted when he was 11 years old, we have already been through one episode of him becoming increasingly distant, angry, blaming, silent, and he then had an affair. We managed to get through that with talk therapy, that we were both very naive about. Meaning we […]
What kinds of ongoing questions and check-ins would you recommend us doing so that one of us doesn’t slip into old patterns? And if we do slip, how can we protect our marriage in our own self so that we don’t both slip?
Watch Listen Read My husband and I recently sat down to discuss how we’ve been acting like cows these past few months. We had grown and healed so much the first year after disclosure. And then when our newest baby was born, I began to regress and struggle. As a result of my pulling away, […]
Watch Listen Read I found this workshop very helpful for my own recovery journey and have told my husband about it and encouraged him to seek out help through your partner page path for men. He has done a few self guided courses and shared some of his answers that I noticed that they were […]
What do you do when you have tried to tell your spouse how they make you feel and it either falls on deaf ears or they turn it around on you telling you that you shouldn’t feel that way?
Watch Listen Read Keeping the faith that, that turning it around, you shouldn’t feel that way is turning you on your own emotions. And I do feel that would be my response, whatever that is, I still feel that. And you say I shouldn’t feel that way. How should I feel then when X, Y, […]
Watch Listen Read Alright, this is what I frequently encountered. I can speak as calmly and honestly as possible and it doesn’t matter because he’s not in the same place emotionally. His defensiveness rises and I feel like, what is the point? So I keep my feelings to myself because it’s no use sharing with […]