How can I read stories of other betrayals and not take on the pain or unnecessary anxiety from them?
Watch Listen Read Reading other stories is triggering for me and I find myself applying their story to my situation. What if my husband had an affair with my best friend or what if my husband has been with prostitutes, how do I read these stories with empathy, but not take on the pain from […]
How can I get these recurring thoughts and images out of my head?
Watch Listen Read I have recurring thoughts and images multiple times a day, and I get so angry. I conjure up so many scenarios in my head that I literally have to stop and say out loud, think what you are thinking about, just stop. I’ve never been one that doesn’t take care of my […]
Can journaling help with a lifetime of memories?
Watch Listen Read I’m having a hard time determining one event to journal about. My husband disclosed betrayal that occurred throughout our 22 year marriage. I do not have one specific memory, I’m processing an entire marriage. What we’re looking for here is you to give a language to some of these experiences. What we […]
How to Stop Replaying Painful Memories
In this class you’ll learn the background, science, and relevance of breath-work to help heal from betrayal trauma. Specifically, using breath-work to manage the trauma symptoms of anxiety, stress, physical and emotional health. JR will guide you through actual breath-work and will help you develop an at home practice for when the triggers come.
I’m in California and we are still on lockdown and so are told not to hug people, which makes this exercise hard. I’m wondering what impact the pandemic will have on our collective ability to connect and support each other.
Watch Listen Read I just thank you for your question. Obviously, your physical health is a big deal, but mental health is also important. Hugs from if you have children, grandchildren are starting points. Animals, I found that when we can’t have physical touch, if you’ve got a pet, a cat or a dog, I […]
How can I heal in the middle of a marriage where connection is missing?
Watch Listen Read A magnifying glass on a lack of connection. Ouch. This lesson comes at a really difficult time for me. I am sad, and to realize that four years after betrayal, I still cannot hold a gaze on my husband’s eyes and experience love and connection. Looking back, the only times we have […]
I have been chemical hugging my son and daughter and am going to do the writing challenge with my husband, but that’s the scariest of them all.
Watch Listen Read I often chemical hug attack my son. He can be difficult to connect with and chemical hugs, long, deep, 20 second plus hugs have been a gift for our relationship. I’ve decided to do the eye challenge with him and he thought it was silly yesterday. But already today, he asked me […]
Why do women feel shame over admitting to friends and community members that they have been betrayed?
Watch Listen Read This question today may be an unusual question. But I had a rough week noticing the post of one of my in town community members sharing her betrayal story. Part of me longed to jump in there and say, Hey, you are so not alone. I wish I could hug her and […]
When I look into my husband’s eyes, all I see is deception and darkness.
Watch Listen Read Eye contact, I just see deception and darkness. I tried, I really did. One eye contact exercise with my husband was enough for me. Although eye contact is something that I long for and believe it’s very healthy to have in an intimate relationship, all I could see was deception and darkness. […]
Is there a way to face the truth without it taking all the work on my recovery away?
Watch Listen Read I like the idea of future casting and preparing for it. My husband took drugs during his porn sessions and really doesn’t remember anything he has done. When COVID settles, we have agreed to do a therapeutic full disclosure with polygraph. He is preparing the full disclosure in the meantime. I have […]