How do I move past lies, deceit and omissions?
Watch Listen Read In thinking about some of the unwanted thoughts I want and need to move past, I’m having a difficult time as I’ve asked my husband questions about these numerous times, and I know he’s lied about them. How do I move past lies, deceit and omissions? If he’s lied about them, that’s […]
Each time I get my feet back under me, another relapse happens. Should I just stop asking or looking for clues until he’s out of recovery?
Watch Listen Read Oh, that’s so hard, and I know that everybody in this group can relate to that feeling of feeling like you’re just back on your feet, and then here comes another one. What I would really recommend along the way are these trust discussions. The check-ins that you’re having, those fast check-ins […]
My partner betrayed me with a friend. Will I ever be able to trust again?
Watch Listen Read Okay. Oh, the only thing that makes betrayal, trauma suck even worse is when there’s a double betrayal. That double whammy, when your partner betrays you with a friend. Oh, that’s the case for this next question. That, that of course you are feeling like, I don’t know with whom I can […]
My Husband lied at Professional Disclosure, and continues to lie to his therapists at important steps in his recovery process.
Watch Listen Read So lied at professional disclosure, stuck point for marital recovery. So one stuck point for me is that my husband lied during a professional disclosure in polygraph in 2017. He had not stopped viewing pornographic material, and at the time of the disclosure, I didn’t know that, and he lied to that […]
I have been struggling with extreme anger with my husband because of all the lies he is telling me.
Watch Listen Read So dealing with anger. Hi, I’m really struggling with anger at my husband for all of the lies he has told and things he has done. I’m trying very hard not to lash out because I know it isn’t effective. But sometimes I just feel like it’s unfair that he doesn’t get […]
How do I face the storm when I don’t know when he is being honest and when he is not?
Watch Listen Read The big storm for me is the fear of being lied to. My husband is in active recovery for his pornography, masturbation addiction, but he has had relapses and has lied about his sobriety through these relapses until I found about them and confront him. I feel capable of working with him […]
How can I rebuild my marriage when it feels like I can’t trust my husband?
Watch Listen Read I feel I used to be a Buffalo and now I’ve become a cow. Since D-Day, my husband denials and trickle of information make me feel like a cow when it comes to thinking about putting things back on track, so to speak. I don’t feel like a mirror dropped on the […]