How do we heal once we have shared with family members and it puts a strain on those relationships?
Watch Listen Read This one is really hard because even though you understand and your husband understands that they care so much, they have their own feelings, which then creates more pain and stress in you. I remember feeling like breaking down to my sister one day just saying, your feelings of love and protection […]
I have to no one to share my shame with. How can I not be embarrassed by that shame?
Watch Listen Read No one to shame share, I’m too embarrassed. Okay, who even can I get to be like my shame partner that I can talk about shame. The first place is recognizing when it is that you’re feeling it. You’re talking about an experience that you had in junior high that was really […]
Am I in denial?
Watch Listen Read Am I in denial that I feel shame around not telling my family, but I also know it’s the right thing. Am I in denial? I am so thrilled by the women responding. You are not in denial. Trust yourself. You are smart. In disclosing to family members, we tell you to […]
Why is it that I feel more safe when I keep my feelings inside and I feel worse when I identify and express them to someone?
Watch Listen Read It’s a vulnerable thing. It is vulnerable to, to share your feelings. Of course you feel more safe keeping your thoughts and your feelings to yourself. But, that’s a lonely place to be because with making that choice, you can say I feel safer holding it in, that I feel like I’m […]
Under what circumstances would you advise sharing the list of your losses with your spouse?
Watch Listen Read My response to that is in all circumstances, I would want them to know the impact that this experience had on the individual who has struggled with the betrayal. Whether you stay married or you get divorced. I would suggest that under all circumstances, you share the list of losses so that […]
Why do women feel shame over admitting to friends and community members that they have been betrayed?
Watch Listen Read This question today may be an unusual question. But I had a rough week noticing the post of one of my in town community members sharing her betrayal story. Part of me longed to jump in there and say, Hey, you are so not alone. I wish I could hug her and […]