My partner and I have separated, how can move past this pain and still hold my relationships?
Watch Listen Read When do I get to be supported? And when will he acknowledge my betrayal trauma? If you’re going to work on your relationship that will be essential. Now, again, that’s if we’re going to be working on the relationship he will need to do that. I would suggest an eye detect that […]
How do you move forward when your spouse is deep in shame and lacks empathy and remorse?
Watch Listen Read If you’re, if they’re in shame and lack empathy your question of moving forward is first of all, it’s going to be focusing on your healing because if you want him to, or your spouse to hold that pain, they might not be ready. They’ve got to do their work so they […]
How can I decrease the amount of checking and all of the self-defeating behaviors and yet not limit it entirely?
Watch Listen Read I know these things are keeping me stuck, but really the question is, but I’m not ready to eliminate them a hundred percent, because it sounds like while husband is doing better, there are still some dishonesties. So it’s, how can I decrease this amount of checking and all of the self-defeating […]
How do I hold on to a belief that I matter?
Watch Listen Read I want to tell you that you matter. Just me I don’t even, I don’t know you. But reading your question and hearing your strength, that you still have a voice that you’re doing this work, despite everything you have been through inspires me. Because of your choice, you are choosing to […]
My Husband lied at Professional Disclosure, and continues to lie to his therapists at important steps in his recovery process.
Watch Listen Read So lied at professional disclosure, stuck point for marital recovery. So one stuck point for me is that my husband lied during a professional disclosure in polygraph in 2017. He had not stopped viewing pornographic material, and at the time of the disclosure, I didn’t know that, and he lied to that […]
How will I be able to face a future storm if I can’t recognize it?
Watch Listen Read My husband has been very active with his recovery from his pornography addiction, with reading workshops, therapy groups in developing his faith since D-Day 2, a little over two months ago. My future storm worry is a relapse, since he is so new to recovery. Right now, he’s very optimistic and excited […]
How can I encourage my husband to find meaningful help without controlling him?
Watch Listen Read I found this workshop very helpful for my own recovery journey and have told my husband about it and encouraged him to seek out help through your partner page path for men. He has done a few self guided courses and shared some of his answers that I noticed that they were […]
How can my husband recall or explain his physically acting out?
Watch Listen Read Dr. Skinner a previous week someone asked about intrusive imagery, wondering exactly what physically acting out looked like, how it occurred, what was the conversation, etc. You recommended a full therapeutic disclosure, but in my case, and probably most others, these are the details that will never be known. My husband had […]