Is my anger normal?
Watch Listen Read Okay. So this question is about anger and responding to this question of is my anger normal? And it sounds like some shame around surrounding anger. I love normalizing that how normal, healthy, and allowing yourself grace to feel sad, angry, grief, whatever it is that you’re feeling. I want to add […]
Why is it that I feel more safe when I keep my feelings inside and I feel worse when I identify and express them to someone?
Watch Listen Read It’s a vulnerable thing. It is vulnerable to, to share your feelings. Of course you feel more safe keeping your thoughts and your feelings to yourself. But, that’s a lonely place to be because with making that choice, you can say I feel safer holding it in, that I feel like I’m […]
What should I do after I turn and face the situation with pure emotion since my spouse doesn’t respond effectively?
Watch Listen Read When I’m the Buffalo with my husband, he will listen nicely, but his lack of empathy and concern leaves my cup half empty, and I feel like I didn’t get anywhere in our relationship progress. Being a Buffalo doesn’t mean that you’re going to progress, it means that you’re going to be […]
What do you do when you have tried to tell your spouse how they make you feel and it either falls on deaf ears or they turn it around on you telling you that you shouldn’t feel that way?
Watch Listen Read Keeping the faith that, that turning it around, you shouldn’t feel that way is turning you on your own emotions. And I do feel that would be my response, whatever that is, I still feel that. And you say I shouldn’t feel that way. How should I feel then when X, Y, […]
What is the point of communicating with my husband when he’s not in the same place emotionally?
Watch Listen Read Alright, this is what I frequently encountered. I can speak as calmly and honestly as possible and it doesn’t matter because he’s not in the same place emotionally. His defensiveness rises and I feel like, what is the point? So I keep my feelings to myself because it’s no use sharing with […]