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When there’s been betrayal in a relationship a formal disclosure can be one of the foundational building blocks for rebuilding trust. In fact, of those couples that go through the disclosure process, 90% report that they were glad they did. Even more interesting is that for couples that are committed to working things out, 86% […]

“Breathe in, breathe out. Breathe in, breathe out.” You repeat to yourself over and over. Your heart is racing so fast it feels like it may explode. You’ve become familiar with this feeling; you have been trauma triggered again. Stressful events like this can lead to an increased heart rate. According to Dr. John Gottman, […]

In this episode, we take a deep-dive into Dr. Skinner’s research on sexually based addictions and compulsive behavior. Specifically, we look into one of his key findings, the role that loneliness can play in addiction. We’ll discuss whether or not that loneliness is perceived or real and where it stems from, what loneliness looks like […]

Reconnecting intimately after sexual betrayal can be difficult and scary. When trust and safety have been broken it’s nearly impossible for intimacy to exist. However, there is a process of reestablishing trust and safety in a way that can create space for vulnerability and intimacy to be reintroduced. In this episode, therapist Karen Strange joins […]

In this episode, Jeni Gessel and Dr. Kevin Skinner have an insightful conversation about fear, shame, empathy, and relationships. You’ll learn the importance of giving fear a voice, how shame keeps us stuck, and the important role empathy can play in healing a relationship. Listen to the episode below, subscribe on itunes or Soundcloud.   […]

Fight, flight, or freeze. When we’re faced with a traumatic experience we respond in one of three ways. Responding to betrayal in our relationships isn’t any different. The question is why do we respond the way we do and is it possible to control our response in sudden traumatic situations? You’ll also learn which one […]

As our schedules have slowed down over the past couple of months a lot of us are finding we have more downtime and more time to think. Time to be alone with our thoughts without our normal “busy-day” distractions. Emotionally, this has been difficult. We might find ourselves feeling stuck. Sitting in pain, worry, or […]

We’re in a difficult time. We’re trying to make sense of the new topsy-turvy world we’re living through during this pandemic. For a lot of us, we’re finding ourselves isolated with no escape and it’s taking a toll on our happiness and mental clarity. This is especially difficult when you’re already trying to navigate the […]

Can you rebuild trust with your spouse, if there has been betrayal? Infidelity seems to be a growing trend in our society, but why? In any relationship, maintaining trust requires effort. Likewise, honesty and communication are imperative for any relationship to be successful. Yet, after a betrayal occurs, hopelessness and heartache sets in and leaves […]

Therapist Jenna Riemersma will be joining us for a webinar on Thursday, May 14th at 12:00pm EST. Jenna will be joining Dr. Kevin Skinner to discuss her new book titled Altogether You. Jenna is an expert in using Internal Family Systems (IFS) to treat trauma and addiction. We’re excited to have Jenna with us and […]