Watch Listen Read You have disclosure coming up and so I’m just taking a deep breath for you and tell you that disclosure’s a scary word, but what you have gone through, you’ve already gone through the worst of it, you’ve had the injury and you’re ripping off the bandage. So when we went through […]
Watch Listen Read It’s more me talking again to you about the importance of finding a therapist that really gets you. And I am grateful that you put a pause on a therapist that didn’t, that you found bloom, that you’re headed into doing some EMDR work, and I really want you to continue to […]
Each time I get my feet back under me, another relapse happens. Should I just stop asking or looking for clues until he’s out of recovery?
Watch Listen Read Oh, that’s so hard, and I know that everybody in this group can relate to that feeling of feeling like you’re just back on your feet, and then here comes another one. What I would really recommend along the way are these trust discussions. The check-ins that you’re having, those fast check-ins […]
My Husband lied at Professional Disclosure, and continues to lie to his therapists at important steps in his recovery process.
Watch Listen Read So lied at professional disclosure, stuck point for marital recovery. So one stuck point for me is that my husband lied during a professional disclosure in polygraph in 2017. He had not stopped viewing pornographic material, and at the time of the disclosure, I didn’t know that, and he lied to that […]
If my husband insults me in front of our therapist do I stand up for myself or let him speak his perspective?
Watch Listen Read Long story short, his brain became addicted when he was 11 years old, we have already been through one episode of him becoming increasingly distant, angry, blaming, silent, and he then had an affair. We managed to get through that with talk therapy, that we were both very naive about. Meaning we […]
Watch Listen Read I found this workshop very helpful for my own recovery journey and have told my husband about it and encouraged him to seek out help through your partner page path for men. He has done a few self guided courses and shared some of his answers that I noticed that they were […]
Watch Listen Read This is my third time through You Bloom, I’m glad you’re with us. Each time I take it, I learn new things. One of the things I haven’t yet learned is how to manage the anger I feel towards my husband. I am four years post D-Day. Although it is said, it […]