What is the difference between shame and self-esteem?

Watch Listen Read The primary difference between shame and self-esteem is self-esteem is a thinking exercise. We think self-esteem, we think through, I graduated from BYU, I studied this, we think through our self-esteem we can, it’s a thinking exercise. Shame occurs in the limbic part of our brain, which you know, that is when […]

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your World

It isn’t surprising that one of the most consistent self-care techniques for women navigating trauma is to use self affirmations. The toll of emotional and/or physical abuse from someone in a position of trust is devastating. The subconscious mind begins to believe the negative words it hears every day. In order to change the negative thought patterns and heal from the constant triggers, you have to reprogram your brain.

Do The Things

When you have been through trauma, social unrest and social energy can deeply affect you. You have probably become hypersensitive to cues and moods. If you spend too much time online or watching the news, you can get pulled into a deep sadness. It is very easy to give in to desperation and fear. It’s like how a small baby or the family pet always knows when something is wrong and then acts out to express the inexpressible. You are not crazy. You are not a mess. You are responding to your environment. The way to change things, to get some relief, is to change the environment.

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