How (& What) to Tell The Kids
A Bloom Workshop

Help your children make sense of emotional or physical changes within the family that have resulted from a parent's sexual acting out

5 lessons | Guided Instruction

Over 40,000 participants have taken courses from Bloom 

A healthy and effective way to talk with your children.

After discovering infidelity in your relationship what should you tell your children? Or is it best to not tell them anything at all? Disclosure to children is important but difficult even under the very best of circumstances. 


In this workshop therapist Jenna Riemersma will walk you through how to create a step by step plan for how navigate a disclosure with your children. She will guide you through the process, helping you anticipate how to respond in areas where it might get a little tricky, and answer your questions along the way.


Why is preparing a disclosure for your children important? In general when we're not prepared we tend to go too far one way or the other. Either sharing too much with too much emotion or not sharing anything at all. 


The purpose of disclosure to children is to help the child make sense of their circumstances. Children are excellent detectors of distress, but terrible interpreters of it. Children know when something isn't right, but without explanation, they will typically personalize the situation, believing it's their fault or it's happening because they are bad. Proper disclosure provides the right type and amount of information to help our children make accurate sense of their reality, preventing personalization and misreading, while also protecting them from traumatizing details or unsupported discovery.


The How To Tell The Kids Workshop will help you:


  • Develop a clear plan to help your children make sense of the conflict in the home environment and avoid internalizing negative self-attributions.
  • Protect your children from the additional trauma of disclosure of a parent's infidelity by a third party, by safely and wisely disclosing to the children within the family first.
  • Help your children make sense of their own discovery of a parent's sexual acting out behavior.
  • Avoid the holding of family secrets that can lay the groundwork for future negative relational patterns in your children's lives.

A healthy and effective way to talk with your children.

After discovering infidelity in your relationship what should you tell your children? Or is it best to not tell them anything at all? Disclosure to children is important but difficult even under the very best of circumstances. 


In this workshop therapist Jenna Riemersma will walk you through how to create a step by step plan for how navigate a disclosure with your children. She will guide you through the process, helping you anticipate how to respond in areas where it might get a little tricky, and answer your questions along the way.


Why is preparing a disclosure for your children important? In general when we're not prepared we tend to go too far one way or the other. Either sharing too much with too much emotion or not sharing anything at all. 


The purpose of disclosure to children is to help the child make sense of their circumstances. Children are excellent detectors of distress, but terrible interpreters of it. Children know when something isn't right, but without explanation, they will typically personalize the situation, believing it's their fault or it's happening because they are bad. Proper disclosure provides the right type and amount of information to help our children make accurate sense of their reality, preventing personalization and misreading, while also protecting them from traumatizing details or unsupported discovery.


The How To Tell The Kids Workshop will help you:


  • Develop a clear plan to help your children make sense of the conflict in the home environment and avoid internalizing negative self-attributions.
  • Protect your children from the additional trauma of disclosure of a parent's infidelity by a third party, by safely and wisely disclosing to the children within the family first.
  • Help your children make sense of their own discovery of a parent's sexual acting out behavior.
  • Avoid the holding of family secrets that can lay the groundwork for future negative relational patterns in your children's lives.

Who is the workshop for?

For parents who need to help their children understand dynamics in the home that have resulted from a parent's sexual acting out.

It is for parents who are either faced with the need for an immediate disclosure to children (due to impending public awareness, or major immediate family transition) or who have processed through their own facilitated and prepared, adult-to-adult disclosure of sexual behavior, and need assistance in wisely and safely sharing the appropriate level of information with the children in the home.

Special consideration is given to single parents, coupled parents where both parents are supportive of disclosure to children, as well as coupled parents where one parent is not supportive of disclosure to children. Specific recommendations are offered for disclosures to various age groups of children, from toddlers to adults, as well as families with large spans in children's ages or levels of awareness.

Who is the workshop for?

For parents who need to help their children understand dynamics in the home that have resulted from a parent's sexual acting out.

It is for parents who are either faced with the need for an immediate disclosure to children (due to impending public awareness, or major immediate family transition) or who have processed through their own facilitated and prepared, adult-to-adult disclosure of sexual behavior, and need assistance in wisely and safely sharing the appropriate level of information with the children in the home.

Special consideration is given to single parents, coupled parents where both parents are supportive of disclosure to children, as well as coupled parents where one parent is not supportive of disclosure to children. Specific recommendations are offered for disclosures to various age groups of children, from toddlers to adults, as well as families with large spans in children's ages or levels of awareness.

Why do a disclosure with your children?

Why do a disclosure with your children?

From therapist Jenna Riemersma

Jenna Riemersma LPC | IFS Level 3 | CSAT-S
Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is teaching faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) and core faculty for Addo Recovery. She holds a master’s degree in Public Policy from Harvard University and a master’s degree in Professional Counseling from Richmont Graduate University.


Jenna is the best-selling author of Altogether You and a popular speaker on topics including faith, mental health and authentic living.

From therapist

Jenna Riemersma

Jenna Riemersma LPC | IFS Level 3 | CSAT


Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is teaching faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) and core faculty for Addo Recovery. She holds a master’s degree in Public Policy from Harvard University and a master’s degree in Professional Counseling from Richmont Graduate University.

Jenna is the best-selling author of Altogether You and a popular speaker on topics including faith, mental health and authentic living.

What is the workshop like?

There are 5 lessons, guided by therapist Jenna Riemersma, each featuring a specific aspect of the disclosure process and the purpose for disclosing to your children.

The lessons feature one instructional video and one recorded Q&A webinar. Each lesson is accompanied by worksheets that will help you build a personalized disclosure plan for your unique family situation. You will leave this workshop with a clear, step-by-step plan for your disclosure to your children, empowering you to minimize your children's trauma and maximize your confidence and wisdom. This workshop will prepare you for the process leading up to disclosure, the day of disclosure, navigating the range of emotions and questions that disclosure may provoke, and help you create safety and support plans for both you and your children as you navigate this challenging but important family experience.

By working through this brief and highly practical workshop, you will be equipped to bring your best parental self to your children during this time of incredible stress in all of your lives. While the focus of disclosure to children is them and their needs, you will also be guided and supported in your own self care as you plan toward this difficult event. The investment you make in these lessons will bring clarity, safety and trust that will lay a strong foundation for healing in your children's lives, regardless of the future of your coupleship.

Once you've registered, feel free to start at your convenience and work at your own pace and on your own schedule. There are no grades, no assignments with deadlines, and no tests. Just a supportive and compassionate learning space, ready for you to engage on your own schedule.

The golden rule of our workshops always applies: the more you put in, the more you’ll get out.

What is the workshop like?

There are 5 lessons, guided by therapist Jenna Riemersma, each featuring a specific aspect of the disclosure process and the purpose for disclosing to your children.

The lessons feature one instructional video and one recorded Q&A webinar. Each lesson is accompanied by worksheets that will help you build a personalized disclosure plan for your unique family situation. You will leave this workshop with a clear, step-by-step plan for your disclosure to your children, empowering you to minimize your children's trauma and maximize your confidence and wisdom. This workshop will prepare you for the process leading up to disclosure, the day of disclosure, navigating the range of emotions and questions that disclosure may provoke, and help you create safety and support plans for both you and your children as you navigate this challenging but important family experience.

By working through this brief and highly practical workshop, you will be equipped to bring your best parental self to your children during this time of incredible stress in all of your lives. While the focus of disclosure to children is them and their needs, you will also be guided and supported in your own self care as you plan toward this difficult event. The investment you make in these lessons will bring clarity, safety and trust that will lay a strong foundation for healing in your children's lives, regardless of the future of your coupleship.

Once you've registered, feel free to start at your convenience and work at your own pace and on your own schedule. There are no grades, no assignments with deadlines, and no tests. Just a supportive and compassionate learning space, ready for you to engage on your own schedule.

The golden rule of our workshops always applies: the more you put in, the more you’ll get out.

Workshop format

Create your plan

Structured lessons and assignments that will guide you through the process.

Video lessons

Expert instruction from Jenna Riemersma.

Recorded Q&A Webinars

Each lesson includes a recorded Q&A webinar addressing common roadblocks.

Workshop format

Create your plan

Structured lessons and assignments that will guide you through the process.

Video lessons

Expert instruction from Jenna Riemersma.

Recorded Q&A Webinar

Each lesson includes a recorded Q&A webinar addressing common roadblocks.

How is this different than a basic Bloom membership?

Our basic membership is focused on helping you heal pain from current and past experiences. This workshop is focused specifically on helping you help your children make sense of any emotional of physical changes that are taking place within the family. To provide you with added support and guidance throughout the process of creating a personalized plan for the disclosure process. 

How is this different than a basic Bloom membership?

Our basic membership is focused on helping you heal pain from current and past experiences. This workshop is focused specifically on helping you help your children make sense of any emotional of physical changes that are taking place within the family. To provide you with added support and guidance throughout the process of creating a personalized plan for the disclosure process. 

Lifetime Access 

When you register for the workshop you will have lifetime access to the content but limited access to submitting questions to our therapists. Take your time to complete the lessons as you wish. We will be reaching out with emails to help move you forward along the way. 

Lifetime Access

When you register for the workshop you will have lifetime access to the content but limited access to submitting questions to our therapists. Take your time to complete the lessons as you wish. We will be reaching out with emails to help move you forward along the way.